If you want to delete Instagram messages from both sides, you should know that you can only delete your messages.
There’s no way to delete someone else’s message. You can only report it.
Do these to delete your Instagram messages from both sides:
- Open the chat with your friend
- Hold-tap on your message
- Select “Unsend“
- Confirm by selecting “Unsend“
If you need a detailed guide on how to delete Instagram messages on both sides, keep reading!
1. Open your chats

The first step is accessing your friend’s chat where you sent the compromising message. Select the “Chats” icon in the top-right corner to do that.
2. Open the chat with your friend

After you open the Chats page, find your friend’s chat and open it. If you can’t find it, use the search bar at the top and type in their name or the message you sent.
Once you find the chat, select it!
3. Hold-tap on the message

After you open your friend’s chat, you need to find the message you sent and hold-tap on it. Scroll through the chat page until you find it!
4. Select “Unsend message“

Once you hold-tap on your message, a notification window will open where you’ll find three options:
- Unsend message
- Copy text
- Like
Select “Unsend message” to delete your message for both parts.
5. Select “Unsend” again

Instagram will ask you to confirm that you want to unsend your message. This action is irreversible, so you won’t be able to retrieve your message.
As you can see, unsending the message will delete it for everyone in the chat window. However, if someone has already seen or forwarded it, it’s too late to delete it.
Confirm by selecting “Unsend,” and you’re done.
Since you can’t delete others’ messages from both sides, this guide ends here. Don’t even think about using apps and services that promise to help you delete others’ messages permanently.
There are no such things. That would mean messing with Instagram’s database, which is impossible unless you hack the platform, which is illegal.
Don’t trust those services and programs!